HEALING BROKEN HEARTS ❤️❤️🙏🙏
hyperemesis are an inability to perform daily functions, and the lack of adequate nourishment. Most of December she was not well. At the end of December, she was severely dehydrated, malnourished, and her electrolytes were out of whack. A hospital stay was needed.🤔
Fr. Bruce Ammering
Even before the hospital stay , Linda had to stay home from work due to the complications of hyperemesis. She lay on the couch eating only ice chips and maybe some jello.The visiting nurse service brought IV's for nourishment. Instead of gaining weight, Linda was losing weight. The doctors assured us that the fetus, our baby was getting adequate nourishment. The baby siphons off nourishment before the mother gets hers.
Instead of a very happy time, it was a tough time enduring a severe illness, it pained me to see her in such a state of despair. New Year's Eve was spent in a hospital room. Actually, it was the best place , better care and nourishment. The hyperemesis proved to be chronic , my wife was very ill with the next two pregnancies.
Those two pregnancies had much better results, the births of two healthy daughters. Not all chronic illnesses are as readily identifiable as hyperemesis. . All sickness, not just physical illnesses, are covered by "in sickness, and in health."
Finally, she began to feel better and we thought the worst was behind us. On January 15tb, she had a scheduled appointment with her OBGYN. The doctor noticed some bleeding and then checked the fetus. There was no heartbeat, no movement. A miscarriage. My wife called me at work hysterical and in tears. She told me the bad news. It was all new to me. I was totally ignorant of what caused miscarriages and unaware of anyone who had suffered through a miscarriage.
I hurried to the doctor's office in a total fog. My wife, the mother of our baby , who was now gone before we got a chance to experience parenthood needed me to hug her and hold her hand. A D&C procedure was required to clean up after the miscarriage. The doctor performed it in the office before we went home. We were both numb to the loss. What to do next?
We both called our parents. Of course they were all very sad. I called our pastor, Fr. Ammering. He asked for directions and said he would be by later that night. There is no right thing to say except to offer prayers and condolences .
The most hurtful thing to hear was people saying that we were young and could try again. No, no we first must grieve our loss.
Fr. Ammering arrived and we said some prayers together. He stayed for awhile , talked with us, counseled us. We knew him well, as he presided over Linda's confirmation and First Eucharist the prior Easter. Linda converted to Catholicism through the RCIA process. Our strong faith would get us through this terrible loss in our lives. Fr. Ammering assured us that God was with us as always. There is no explanation on what happens to us in this world , good or bad. We just need to trust that God is leading us on the correct path.
My parents called and said they were coming for the weekend. It was very much welcomed to have family with us in this time of sadness. Plus Mom could whip up some good meals.
The reason why Linda began to feel better was due to the miscarriage . The fetus was no longer causing the negative physical effects of hyperemesis.
This past weekend there was a Mass in the Rochester Diocese for those who experienced the stiil born birth of a child , or a miscarriage.
The Sunday after the miscarriage, we attended Mass at Blessed Sacrament RC Church (church of our wedding).
Fr. Ammering greeted us, and his words will always stay close to my heart, " Your baby never knew anything, but love." 🙏🙏❤️❤️ How can anyone quit on their Catholic faith after those words of love from a disciple of God ?
Every January 15th I think of the sadness that day in 1987, the loss of first child via miscarriage. Some think it only affects the mother , not true , it also affects the father. Men are often thought of as strong without emotions.
😢😢.A miscarriage is not only an emotional hardship to the mother, but to many fathers as well. Rather then dwell on the miscarriage, I think about the blessings of my other children. 🙏🙏
It was a very low point in life, but with faith in God we recovered and were blessed with two children after that.✝️✝️. That was the first major loss in my life, and the first time I needed to provide strong support and love in my marriage. It was not an easy time. But, God watched out for us, we trusted him.
God places many obstacles in our journey through life. None are pleasant, none are easy , but we must be patient and strong in faith "in good times and bad..." God will uphold his covenants with us, but expects to uphold our covenants with each other and with God.
God bless & RIP baby Schmitt. 🙏🙏❤️❤️ I don't where they are , but I think we had sonograms of the baby. I don't need them as the love of that unborn child will always remain in my 💜 and soul.
I was lost those few days, but I did what was needed. I provided strong support and a deep love to my wife in time of crisis. It was a long time ago, but it puzzles me , and also maybe puzzles God, that the support and love in a time of crisis is severely discounted or forgotten by so many. Why ? We're all sinners, all repenters Judged only for my sins, not my good acts. Thankfully God is the ultimate judge.
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